Understanding the Validation Approach
Developed by social worker Naomi Feil, the validation approach is a philosophy and set of techniques for communicating with older adults who are disoriented. Rather than attempting to force a person with dementia back into our reality, the core principle is to step into their reality. This empathetic method recognizes that behind confusing or seemingly illogical behavior lies a legitimate emotional need or an unresolved life issue.
By focusing on the emotions driving the behavior, caregivers can build trust, reduce a person's anxiety and frustration, and foster a deeper, more meaningful connection. This is in stark contrast to older methods like "reality orientation," which often caused distress by repeatedly correcting the individual and highlighting their cognitive deficits.
The Core Principles of Validation
The Validation Training Institute outlines several foundational principles that guide this therapeutic method:
- Empathy and Listening: Active, empathetic listening builds trust and rapport. This involves paying attention not just to the words, but also to nonverbal cues like tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions.
- Acceptance: The caregiver accepts the person with dementia as they are, without judgment. There is no attempt to change their behavior or perception of reality.
- Underlying Meaning: Every behavior has a reason. Validation seeks to uncover the unmet need or unresolved life issue that the person is trying to express.
- Acknowledged Feelings: When painful feelings are acknowledged and validated by a trusted listener, their intensity diminishes. Ignoring or suppressing these feelings can cause them to grow stronger.
- Respect and Dignity: The person with dementia is treated with respect and dignity, honoring their personal history and life experiences.
Practical Validation Techniques
Caregivers can use several techniques to apply the validation approach effectively:
- Use a respectful tone of voice: A calm, low-pitched voice conveys respect and helps to de-escalate tension.
- Establish eye contact: Making genuine eye contact lets the person know they are valued and heard.
- Mirror their emotions: Reflecting the emotion you perceive—for example, saying, “You seem upset”—shows that you are attuned to their feelings.
- Ask open-ended questions: Instead of asking "why," which can be cognitively challenging, ask who, what, when, or where. This encourages them to share more.
- Rephrase their words: Paraphrasing what they said shows you were listening and can help clarify their meaning.
- Use appropriate touch: A gentle, reassuring touch on the arm can provide comfort and connection, if the person is receptive to it.
- Use ambiguity: If the person's meaning is unclear, use vague pronouns like "them" or "it" to engage without confronting.
Validation Therapy vs. Reality Orientation
It's helpful to compare validation with the outdated "reality orientation" approach to understand why the former is so much more compassionate and effective. The differences are significant:
| Feature | Validation Therapy | Reality Orientation |
|---|---|---|
| Core Philosophy | Enters the person's reality to understand emotional needs. | Forces the person back into objective reality, correcting their perceptions. |
| Focus | Emotional state, underlying feelings, and unmet needs. | Factual content, time, date, and place. |
| Goal | Reduce anxiety, restore dignity, and improve communication. | Improve cognitive function and reduce confusion (often unsuccessfully). |
| Outcome | Builds trust and rapport; reduces agitation and negative behaviors. | Can cause increased agitation, frustration, and withdrawal. |
| Techniques | Empathetic listening, mirroring, open-ended questions. | Repetitive prompting of facts, correcting false information. |
How Caregivers Can Benefit from the Validation Approach
Validation therapy isn't just beneficial for the person with dementia; it also provides significant advantages for caregivers. Caregiving for a loved one with dementia can be emotionally and physically taxing, but this approach offers a less confrontational and more effective way to manage challenging behaviors.
- Reduces caregiver stress and burnout: By providing a framework for compassionate communication, validation helps caregivers avoid the frustrating and pointless arguments that often occur with reality orientation.
- Increases feelings of fulfillment: Successfully connecting with a loved one, even in their altered reality, can be deeply rewarding and fulfilling for a caregiver.
- Improves communication skills: Learning the techniques of validation can improve a caregiver's overall communication skills, which are useful in all aspects of life.
- Promotes patience and understanding: The philosophy encourages a shift in perspective, fostering greater patience and understanding toward the person's condition.
Example in Action
Consider a person with dementia who insists they need to go home, despite already being in their residence. Instead of saying, "You are home," a validation-trained caregiver might respond by joining their reality:
Person: "I need to go home. My mom is waiting for me."
Caregiver (Validation): "You miss your mom very much. What was it like when you used to live with her?" or "Tell me about her." This acknowledges the emotion (missing her) without contradicting the perceived reality.
This simple shift helps the person feel heard and validated, often leading to a calm, positive conversation about a meaningful past memory. Contrast this with the reality-oriented approach:
Caregiver (Reality Orientation): "You are home. Your mom passed away years ago." This confrontation can cause distress, confusion, and agitation, as the person cannot process or accept this information.
The Final Stages of Validation
Naomi Feil's model also outlines four progressive stages of dementia behavior, from Malorientation to Vegetation. The validation approach adapts its techniques to each stage. For example, during the "repetitive motion" stage, where verbal communication fades, a caregiver might use music or mirror the person's movements to create a connection. In the final stage, "vegetation," validation is still possible through gentle touch, eye contact, and music to maintain a human connection and show respect. The goal is to prevent withdrawal and help the person find peace.
For more information on the principles and practice of this method, consider consulting the Validation Training Institute.