Marital Status in the Aging Population
According to an analysis of American Community Survey data, the share of never-married men aged 65 and older has steadily risen, reaching 6.9% in 2022. This marks an increase from 4.7% in 1990 and reflects a long-term societal shift toward more individuals remaining single throughout their lives. While a significant majority of older men have been married at some point, the proportion who have not is an important trend to understand for those in or approaching their later years.
Comparing Older Men and Women
When comparing the marital status of older men and women, clear differences emerge. For men aged 65 and older, most are currently married. However, a gender gap in marital status exists, which widens with age. This can be attributed to several factors:
- Longer Life Expectancy for Women: Women tend to live longer than men, meaning a greater number of older women are widowed.
- Higher Remarriage Rates for Men: Older men are more likely to remarry after divorce or widowhood than older women, which keeps their 'currently married' percentage higher.
- Differing Social Networks: Widowed women often rely on a strong network of family and friends for support, whereas men's social integration often diminishes after losing a spouse.
Key Factors Driving Lifelong Singlehood in Men
Several personal, social, and economic factors contribute to a man remaining single into his 60s and beyond:
- Evolving Priorities: Many single men report prioritizing personal growth, career advancement, and a higher degree of freedom over a committed relationship. As societal pressures to marry have diminished, this has become a more acceptable and satisfying lifestyle choice for some.
- Social and Mating Market Factors: Some men who wish to be in a relationship may face difficulties due to social and courtship skills, shyness, or low self-confidence, factors cited in studies on involuntary singlehood.
- Personal and Relationship History: Past negative experiences, such as painful breakups, or a fear of being hurt again, can lead individuals to avoid long-term commitment.
- Economic Considerations: For some, achieving financial stability is a prerequisite for marriage, and prioritizing career development over finding a partner can contribute to lifelong singlehood. Never-married seniors, particularly men, have also historically faced higher rates of poverty compared to their married peers, suggesting a link between economic status and marital outcomes.
Challenges and Advantages of Being Single in Later Life
Being never-married in older age is a unique experience with both potential drawbacks and rewarding aspects.
Potential Challenges
- Economic Vulnerability: As research from the Social Security Administration indicates, the elderly poverty rate among never-married individuals has historically been significantly higher than for married individuals. This can be due to a single income stream and lack of a partner's retirement benefits.
- Loneliness and Isolation: While not universal, loneliness is a frequently reported challenge for some single men, who may lack the built-in social support of a spouse and may have fewer close confidants in later life.
- Societal Stigmatization: Despite growing acceptance of singlehood, some older individuals report feeling a social stigma or pity because they have never married, making them feel misunderstood or flawed.
Significant Advantages
- Increased Autonomy and Freedom: Many single older adults emphasize the freedom to make independent choices about their lifestyle, finances, and daily activities without compromise.
- Greater Social Engagement: Studies suggest that single men and women often maintain stronger ties with extended family, friends, and their community than married couples, who tend to turn inward.
- Personal Growth: Singlehood can provide more time and energy for personal development, allowing individuals to explore hobbies, travel, and reflect on their true desires.
- Financial Control: With full control over their own finances, never-married seniors can save and spend as they wish without needing to negotiate or consider a partner's financial priorities.
Historical Marital Status Trends in the U.S.: A Comparison
| Marital Status (Ages 65+) | Men (1990) | Men (2022) | Women (1990) | Women (2022) |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Currently Married | 76.6% | 69.8% | 39.5% | 47.3% |
| Widowed | 14.0% | 10.3% | 53.4% | 20.9% |
| Divorced | 4.8% | 13.1% | 5.3% | 15.2% |
| Never Married | 4.7% | 6.9% | 1.8% | 6.6% |
Note: Data for 1990 and 2022 from the National Center for Family & Marriage Research, Bowling Green State University.
Living a Fulfilled Single Life
For men over 60 who are never-married, living a fulfilling life is highly achievable. Focus on these areas:
- Cultivate a Strong Social Network: Proactively engage with friends, family, and your community. Volunteer, join clubs, or take classes to find a deep sense of connection.
- Pursue Passions and Interests: Dedicate time to hobbies, travel, and personal projects that bring meaning and joy. This independence can be a powerful source of fulfillment.
- Plan for Financial Independence: Ensure your retirement planning accounts for a single income and potential long-term care needs. Seek financial advice to secure your future.
- Embrace Your Lifestyle: Reject outdated stereotypes and recognize that a happy, meaningful life does not require a partner. Embrace the freedom and personal growth singlehood can offer. For more information on marital trends, the U.S. Census Bureau is an excellent resource.
Conclusion
The percentage of men over 60 who have never been married, though still a minority, has grown over the decades, reflecting a departure from past marital norms. Lifelong singlehood is a choice or circumstance with unique challenges, including potential financial difficulties and loneliness. However, it also offers significant benefits like independence, personal growth, and strong social connections. As society continues to evolve, understanding and supporting the diverse experiences of older adults, regardless of marital status, is increasingly important for healthy aging.
