Why People with Dementia Hide Things
Hiding objects is a common and often distressing behavior for families of those living with dementia. This action stems from a variety of cognitive and emotional changes happening in the brain. To manage this behavior, it's essential to look beyond the action itself and understand the motivations behind it. Here are some of the primary reasons.
Confusion and Memory Loss
One of the most straightforward explanations for this behavior is memory loss and confusion. As dementia progresses, a person's short-term memory is significantly affected. They may place an item in what seems like a safe or logical spot at the time, only to forget where they put it minutes later. A person might put their keys in the refrigerator or their wallet in a kitchen cupboard, mistaking it for a more appropriate storage location. This is not an intentional act of hiding but a byproduct of failing memory and reduced organizational skills.
Paranoia and Anxiety
Dementia can also trigger feelings of paranoia and suspicion. A person may become convinced that others, even family members, are trying to steal their belongings. As a result, they may hide their valuables in what they believe are secret, safe places to protect them. This behavior is driven by a deep sense of mistrust and anxiety, which can be very distressing for both the individual and their loved ones. Accusations of theft can be especially hurtful, but it is important to remember that these are symptoms of the disease and not personal attacks.
The Need for Control and Security
As the world becomes more confusing and unpredictable for someone with dementia, they may feel a profound loss of control. Hiding items can be a way to regain a sense of power over their environment. Stashing away belongings can give them a temporary feeling of purpose and security. The act of rummaging and sorting can also provide a form of engagement, occupying their time when they are feeling bored.
Underlying Boredom or Seeking Engagement
Sometimes, the act of rummaging and hiding is a way to cope with boredom or a need for engagement. As individuals lose the ability to participate in more complex activities, simpler actions like sorting or rummaging through drawers can offer a sense of purpose. Caregivers can redirect this energy by providing safe rummaging boxes filled with interesting, non-valuable objects to sort and handle.
How to Respond When a Person with Dementia Hides Things
Responding to this behavior with patience and understanding is key. Here are some practical tips for caregivers and family members:
- Stay Calm and Reassure: Do not get angry or confrontational. Remember that the behavior is caused by the disease. Reassure the person that their belongings are safe and that you will help them look.
- Create Safe Rummaging Areas: Designate a specific drawer, basket, or box where the person can freely sort and hide non-essential items. Filling it with things like old magazines, harmless trinkets, or fabrics can satisfy their need to engage without causing stress over missing valuables.
- Secure Important Items: Proactively remove and secure important documents, financial records, keys, and other valuables. Make copies of essential documents and store the originals safely.
- Use Visual Reminders: Clearly label drawers or storage areas with words or pictures to help the person remember where things belong.
- Consider a Locator Device: For items they frequently hide, such as glasses or a wallet, a locator device can be attached.
Comparing Normal Forgetfulness with Dementia-Related Hiding
Understanding the difference between typical misplacing of items and hiding due to dementia is helpful for caregivers.
| Feature | Normal Forgetfulness | Dementia-Related Hiding |
|---|---|---|
| Location | Items are misplaced in common areas (e.g., keys on a counter). | Items are hidden in unusual or illogical places (e.g., jewelry in a shoe). |
| Memory | The person might remember misplacing the item with a little thought. | The person has no memory of hiding the item and may accuse others of stealing. |
| Emotion | Mild frustration or annoyance. | Intense anxiety, paranoia, or anger, especially if confronted. |
| Behavior | Occasional and isolated incidents. | Frequent, often secretive, and sometimes escalating to hoarding. |
Conclusion: A Compassionate Approach is Key
Understanding why someone with dementia hides things is a critical step toward managing this challenging behavior effectively. It is not a sign of stubbornness but a symptom of a progressive disease impacting their memory, perception, and emotions. By responding with patience, compassion, and practical strategies like creating safe rummaging spaces and securing valuables, caregivers can reduce stress for everyone involved. Ultimately, focusing on the person's comfort and emotional well-being is the most important part of providing compassionate care. For more information and resources on managing dementia behaviors, the Alzheimer's Society offers valuable guidance and support.
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