Prioritizing Resident Preferences for Respect
The foundation of modern long-term care rests on the principle of person-centered care, which emphasizes the individual's dignity, choices, and independence. The way a nursing assistant addresses a resident is a simple yet powerful expression of this principle. The most crucial rule is to always ask the resident how they prefer to be addressed and then consistently honor that preference. This can vary significantly from person to person, and making assumptions can be disrespectful.
For many residents, particularly those from older generations, being addressed formally with a title and their last name (e.g., "Mr. Jones" or "Mrs. Smith") is a sign of respect. For others, a first name or a nickname may be what they have been called their entire life and what they prefer. Some might have strong aversions to certain names or nicknames. By asking directly, the nursing assistant empowers the resident and affirms their individuality. This practice is especially important for residents who may feel a loss of control or identity as they navigate the complexities of long-term care.
The Importance of Consistent Communication
Once a resident's preference is known, it should be documented clearly in their care plan. This ensures that every staff member, from the nursing assistant to the physician, uses the correct form of address. Consistent communication reinforces respect and builds trust. Conversely, inconsistent use of names can be confusing and lead to feelings of disrespect or anonymity. For a resident with cognitive impairment, consistency is even more vital, as it helps maintain a sense of stability and familiarity.
Avoiding Disrespectful Language
While good intentions may be behind it, using overly familiar or infantilizing language is a common pitfall. Terms like "sweetie," "honey," "dearie," or "grandma" are often viewed as patronizing and disrespectful. These terms strip the resident of their adult status and can be highly offensive. Even if a resident does not immediately object, it does not mean they appreciate the label. The safest and most respectful approach is to stick to the name they have explicitly requested.
How to Establish a Resident's Naming Preference
Establishing a naming preference is a simple, yet intentional, process. It should be done early in the relationship and reinforced regularly. Here's a step-by-step guide:
- Initial Introduction: When you first meet a resident, introduce yourself clearly. Then, ask a direct and respectful question such as, "Hello, my name is Alex. What would you like me to call you?".
- Active Listening: Listen carefully to their response. They may give you a specific nickname or ask you to use their full name with a title. Always respect their answer.
- Confirm and Document: Reiterate their preference to confirm you heard correctly. For example, "Okay, Mrs. Jones, I will call you that." Then, immediately document the preference in their chart or care plan for other staff to see.
- Regular Check-ins: Periodically, you can confirm their preference, especially if you notice a change in their communication or if they refer to themselves by a different name.
- Respectful Corrections: If a fellow staff member uses an incorrect name, a gentle, private reminder is the best practice to maintain the resident's dignity without causing embarrassment to anyone involved.
The Psychology Behind Proper Naming
The impact of being addressed by one's name goes far beyond simple etiquette. It has significant psychological benefits for residents. A person's name is a core component of their identity. When it is used respectfully, it validates their personhood and reinforces their sense of self. This can combat feelings of loneliness, invisibility, and dehumanization that can sometimes accompany institutional living.
Conversely, when a person feels their name and identity are being ignored, it can lead to increased anxiety, resistance to care, and a feeling of powerlessness. Proper naming is a fundamental way to maintain a resident's psychological well-being and foster a positive, trusting relationship with their care team.
Formal vs. Informal Naming Conventions
| Aspect | Formal Naming (e.g., "Mr. Peterson") | Informal Naming (e.g., "Betty") |
|---|---|---|
| Appropriateness | Safe, respectful default for initial interactions and with unfamiliar residents. | Appropriate only when explicitly requested or indicated by the resident. |
| Context | Often preferred by older residents or those who value professional distance. | Suitable for building a closer, more personal rapport once permission is given. |
| Benefits | Reinforces dignity, commands respect, and avoids assumptions. | Can foster a more intimate and comfortable relationship. |
| Risks | Can be seen as overly stiff if a resident prefers familiarity. | Can be perceived as condescending or disrespectful if not requested. |
| Best Practice | Start formally and transition to informal only at the resident's request. | Never assume; always ask first. |
Conclusion: A Small Action with a Large Impact
Determining what name should a nursing assistant call a resident is not a trivial matter, but a cornerstone of respectful, person-centered care. By prioritizing a resident's expressed preference, avoiding disrespectful terms, and ensuring consistency among the care team, nursing assistants contribute to a positive and dignified environment. The simple act of using a preferred name can profoundly impact a resident's sense of self-worth and trust in their caregivers, improving their overall quality of life in a care facility.